Juggling It All—And Choosing Yourself Anyway

“What happens when you’re the backbone of everybody’s life, but you’re breaking inside?”

Let’s keep it all the way real, Sacred Star Being.
Some days, I feel like I’ve lived nine lives before breakfast.
Wife. Mom. Employee. Entrepreneur. Spiritual woman.
Shifting hats, answering texts, holding space, making breakfast, manifesting my next level, and praying my mind stays steady—before noon even hits.

But I want you to know, even on the hardest days, there’s always a little light shining through.
Sometimes it’s in the small things—a quiet moment with my tea, a hug from one of my kids, a laugh I wasn’t expecting, or a second where I see myself and think, “You’re doing better than you think, sis.”

Let’s talk about motherhood.
Supporting my children’s mental health while holding my own—whew. Some days, I’m pouring from a cup that feels bone dry. I want to raise them gently, love them loudly, and break every generational curse—but sometimes my own hurt child is running the show.

So, I started talking to her—my inner child.
I tell her, “You’re safe now. You’re allowed to play. You don’t have to earn love by being perfect. You get to heal while you love, and love while you heal. I’m so proud of you for making it this far.”
And you know what? Every time I give her compassion, I show my kids how to love themselves too.

And marriage?
I love my husband. I love being a wife. But I also want to be more than someone’s everything. I want to be me—soft and fierce, ambitious and tired, open and honest. It’s hard to balance passion, partnership, and the need to remember myself.

But every time I pour into myself, I notice our relationship shifts. When I let myself rest, say what I need, or let my dreams be big, I show my family that my joy matters. My inner child gets to see that love doesn’t mean self-abandonment.

Then there’s the dream-chasing.
Building a business while working a 9-5 is a lot. I want to model “possible” for my kids, but there are days I want to curl up, close the laptop, and just be invisible for a while. But I remind myself—every seed I plant, every small step, is proof to my inner child (and my real children) that it’s okay to keep going, even imperfectly.
It’s not all highlight reels—sometimes, it’s just survival and stubborn hope.
But I celebrate every win, big or small.

Here’s something most people won’t say out loud:
Sometimes you have to walk away from family—your own mother, your own sister—for your sanity. I chose my mental health over their approval. Guilt shows up, sure. Grief too. But so does peace. And when I look in the mirror, I know I broke a cycle that could have broken me.

To my inner child, I say:

“You didn’t have to keep it all together. You never should have had to choose between your own happiness and someone else’s comfort. We’re free now. We get to rest, to laugh, to dream—even if not everyone understands.”

Spiritually, I’m still learning.
I pray, I journal, I cry. I surrender more than I “slay.” There are days my higher self feels miles away, but I trust that the Universe never left me. Healing is messy, and I’m not always “aligned”—but I keep showing up, softer every time.

Inner Peace Affirmation

“I am safe to let go of what I cannot control.”

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Affirmation:
I am allowed to choose myself, even if it disappoints others. My inner child deserves to feel safe, loved, and free.

Journal Prompt:
Where in your life are you holding on out of obligation—and what would shift if you finally chose yourself? What does your inner child need to hear from you today?

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With so much love (for you and the little you inside),
Felicia